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You may not even realize you're doing it, but saying these three little words is an instant turn-off to guys, not to mention awful for your own self-esteem. Writer Josh Aiello wants to put a stop to the pervasive phrase forever.
By Josh Aiello
If you want to turn off a guy fast, allow me to recommend three magic
words. To guys, these words are the Holy Grail of annoying things girls
say, the abracada bra of instantaneous mood killers, the uglier cousin
to the infamous lose-lose query: "Do I look fat in this?" The three
words we pray you will never say to us: "I look fat."
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Imagine the worst thing a guy could say to you (thought joggers: "I'm
in love with your sister," "I killed a man..."), multiply it by 10, add a
full weekend of nothing but golf on TV--and you'll start to understand
just how awful it is for us to hear "I look fat" coming out of a girl's
mouth, especially a girl we really like or, worse, love. Take it from my
friend Adam, 34: "When a girl says she looks fat, all I think is, How
can I get out of this conversation as quickly as possible? She's either
fishing for compliments, she doesn't like herself, or she actually has
gained weight, in which case I think, So what? Do something about it, or
stop worrying and be comfortable with yourself the way you are," he
says. "Whatever the reason, I'm basically like, Please, make this stop."
Now, I'm not a woman, but I'm guessing "Please, make this stop" isn't
the reaction most girls are hoping for when talking to a guy. Yet that's
where our brains go when we hear those three words. Here's why.
When You Say "I Look Fat," We Feel Helpless
Once we hear that, we know that no matter how many times we tell you
how hot you look, you won't believe us. You've already crossed over to
the dark side of deep insecurity and you're too far gone. Guys hate
feeling helpless, but you already know that from that time we tried to
assemble your Ikea bookshelf.
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"As soon as a girl says those words, the night's ruined," says my
friend Will, 39. "She's already feeling down on herself and in a bad
mood. It's a drag." It's also totally pointless. "It's basically like
saying you look ugly," says Steve, 25. "Of course, we're not going to
agree. If we did, we'd never hear the end of it."
You're Planting a Seed of Doubt in Our Minds
Your guy knows you're not fat. He can see you're not fat. But the more
you say you're fat, the more he'll start to question the evidence. I
once dated a really pretty girl who was convinced she was overweight.
She told me she thought she was fat so often that when my parents came
to visit, I didn't introduce her to them. Why? Because I doubted whether
what I saw when I looked at her was what other, more objective people
saw. Saying "I look fat" connects you and fat in a guy's mind. And once that connection has been made, it's tough to shake.
You're Making Us Feel Insecure Too!
I get it--there's an incredible amount of pressure on women to look perfect. But it's easy to forget guys feel some of this pressure too.
"When a girl says she looks fat," my friend Afshin, 24, tells me,
"First I'm like, Seri ously? Then I think, Wait a min ute....Is she?
Followed by, Crap, now I feel fat. I should proba bly hit the gym
tomorrow." On uttering those three words, a guy goes from having a good
time to wondering why the girl he's with thinks she's fat to considering
whether she is fat to feeling fat himself. That's quite a plunge.
So please, the next time the urge to say those three little words hits
(even if it's just a force of habit), fight it. If you think you look
fat, chances are, you really don't. And even if you have gained a few
extra pounds, the guy you're with probably doesn't care. So take it from
a guy: Don't mention it.
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